Things are not always what they seem… – Phadeus, Roman poet
I attended a gathering of leaders recently in which we were going around the room telling how things were going within our teams. Each of us, except one, stated some good things that were happening as well as some things with which we were struggling. When it came to one leader in particular, this leader shared that everything was going great! Wonderful! Good things were constantly happening! All said with a smile that betrayed believability. I knew first-hand that things were not in fact all sunshine and roses. Things were quite the opposite.
As I reflected later on that meeting, I realized that the combined experience of the leaders in the room was over 80 years. Yet, here was a leader who chose shut off any wisdom from other leaders in the room who had wrestled with the very same issues and had grown through them.
Why do we unintentionally spurn the wisdom in the room? Is it to make ourselves look better because we feel inadequate? Do we want to appear as leaders who have it all together?
None of us have it together.
None of us want to see other leaders fail. As leaders, it is in our nature to see others succeed, even those in “competition” with us. We don’t want other leaders to make the same mistakes we did.
When things on our team are not sunshine and roses, the sharp leader is not afraid to admit it and glean from the wisdom in the room. Instead, they embrace it.
What wisdom can we gather this week that will help us grow in our leadership?