We have met the enemy and he is us. – Pogo, comic book character
In a recent post I talked about “stinking thinking” that we can fall prey to in our role as leaders. (Read it here.) The same phenomenon also happens in our self-leadership. Self-doubt can grip us in its scaly tentacles and we find it hard to break free.
When I find myself in this state, I know it is time for me to check out “the view from someone outside my head.” It’s like staying inside the same house all the time. Our view becomes only what we see from that limited perspective. Soon we believe that is reality, but in fact it is only our perception.
The voice of self-doubt shouts to us to err on the side of safety. It says:
- You can’t
- You shouldn’t
- You won’t
- You will never
- That won’t work
- You must not
- That’s too risky
- What are you thinking?
It’s helpful to pay attention to our emotions when we are caught in periods of self-doubt. The voice of self-doubt becomes louder during times of stress, exhaustion, risk, and as deadlines draw near.
Our best strategy for silencing the voices of negativity is to listen to our cheering section, our fans, our positive partners and our encouragers. They give us the perspective we need to break free from the hold of self-doubt.
No one makes it alone.
These treasured people remind us of what we have going for us and how far we’ve come. Sometimes we need them to come along side to give us a good swift kick in the behind to get us back on track.
Take down the voice of self-doubt. Go find your eagles, so you can soar once again.
Who are your positive partners?